Once you have your wedding date inked on the calendar and your venue set, you can start ordering your save the dates; a staple for traditional weddings and a little paper celebration delivered right to your guest’s mailboxes. This may be the very first time you’ve started thinking about your guest list and who you might like to celebrate with into the wee hours of the night, but you’ll want to have a good grasp on it before ordering and mailing your save the dates. You’re better off sending save the dates to a smaller crowd and expanding your guest list with formal invitations down the road. Why? Because the people you send save the dates to become a permanent part of your guest list and you are obligated to send all those recipients a formal invitation. This may not seem like an issue, but if you discover that your guest list had accidentally grown too large for your venue (or bank account) to accommodate, etiquette can’t do much to save you now.
What Information Needs to go on my Save the Date?
Save the dates are short and sweet with just enough information for your guests to learn of your recent engagement and mark their calendars. You’ll want to make sure you include the following:
1. Your names
2. The Venue
3. City, State, (Country)
You’ll also want to include a line that reads “formal invitation to follow” to inform guests that they can expect more details soon. You may also want to include your wedding website so guests can keep informed and follow along as your wedding day approaches.
When Should I Mail My Save the Dates?
Save the dates should be mailed 6-8 months prior to your wedding. If you’re planning a destination wedding or getting married on a major holiday you’ll want to give extra notice and send your save the dates 9 months to a year in advance.